Two years ago, at age 35, he was completely hooked on drugs and alcohol and his marriage was in trouble. “I had to have the alcohol, had to have the pain pills,” Skidmore said. “It wasn’t to get high, it was to feel normal.”
That was when he said he prayed for the first time since he was a child.
“I said, ‘God I need your help. I can’t keep living like this. Something’s got to change and I can’t do it myself,’” he recalled.
Soon after, Skidmore’s family urged him to check into a faith-based drug treatment program. It was an interdenominational church ministry formed in Powell County, with help from several local KBC churches and state Baptist leaders.
Skidmore spent two weeks as a resident at the treatment facility, and attended 10 months of follow-up meetings at local churches. During that time, he accepted Christ as his Savior, thanks to the love and support of church members.
“I just couldn’t get that out of my head why someone would care enough to take time out of their day to help me when I was at one of the lowest points of my life,” Skidmore noted. “I didn’t know it, but I guess God had plans for me, because maybe I was worth something.”
According to Eric Bruns, John Skidmore is a perfect example of how churches can help addicts move to an “abstinence-based lifestyle with grace and mercy.”
Bruns, an associate professor of Psychology at Campbellsville University and a clinical psychologist, discussed the psychological factors of addiction. In a breakout session, he urged conference participants to learn and be able to recognize “the process that brings people into addiction so that we can help love them out of addiction.”
“A church-based paradigm is so vital, because just like John testified, he was loved into a sobriety-based lifestyle,” Bruns explained, “and that is why God has to be in the forefront and center of (our) efforts.”
Bruns described the five stages of change that each addict must move through in order to attain a sobriety-based lifestyle. They are:
Pre-contemplation. “They don’t yet have a conscious awareness that what they’re doing is a problem,” Bruns noted, “because perhaps the consequences for their drug and alcohol abuse has not caused them sufficient misery to get their attention.”
Contemplation. This is the stage where addicts become aware that they have a problem, mostly because of consequences like divorce, job loss or jail, Bruns said. Addicts in this stage “are on a teeter-totter, weighing the pros and cons of quitting or modifying their behavior,” he noted.
Preparation/determination. This is where “the person wakes up and says, ‘I’ve got to do something,’” Bruns pointed out. “This is where (churches) have to be prepared to hook them and get them into the treatment process.”
Action/willpower. “This is the stage where (addicts) finally believe they have the ability to change and they become actively involved” in treatment, Bruns noted.
Maintenance. This stage “involves (the addict) being able to successfully avoid the temptation to return to the bad habit,” Bruns said. This also is where relapse will most often occur, he added, and if it does, the addict’s old lifestyle may reawaken.
“This recovery process is … just like the journey of our salvation: It’s something that we’re always going to be on,” Bruns added. “So, as Christ’s body, … we’ve got to work diligently to rescue souls and to save souls, and to let people know they have the image of God within them. They don’t have to be stuck in this world.”
Western Recorder issue date: October 28, 2008
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